Everyone wants their marriage to continue happily until the very end. And no doubt, each marriage is different. But even if each marriage is different, and even if the same rules do not apply to each marriage, there are some secrets of a happy marriage. Being respectful and loyal to one another is the most important of these secrets. Here are the suggestions you need to consider for a happy marriage...
1. Do not be afraid to argue
Of course, it is not always easy for two people to share a life together. From time to time you may fall into disagreements with your partner and argue about things related to it. There is no problem with this. What is important is that you need to remain respectful during arguments. During the discussion focus on the topic and avoid personal attacks on each other. Discuss the problem in detail and find a solution together. Because rather than being in a silent marriage, constructive criticism to each other will make your marriage more stable.
2. Keep communication channels open
During your marriage, you will not remain the same person. Your love and your private life will change in time with you and will change and transform in a positive direction. What you need to do for this is to keep the communication channels always open. Remember, as long as you remain loving and respectful there is nothing you can not solve by speaking to each other. For this reason, always try to preserve the communication in between.
3. Do not be fixated on topic of children
Couples can even decide on the number of children they want to have by talking among themselves prior to marriage. But life does not always go as planned. Think of your wish to have children as a continuing dialogue between you and do not make hasty decisions in this regard. Maybe you wanted 3 children before you got married but as conditions and wishes can change over time, you may want only a single child. Always communicate and be flexible in this regard.
4. Be open regarding financial matters
At times, financial issues can be the biggest problem in a marriage. Therefore, always be honest with each other in financial matters and discuss it. Share with your partner no matter how small of an anxiety you might have in this regard. You are a team and you should always be able to share your worries and be understanding with each other.
5. Be with each other during difficult times
During your marriage, you and your partner may have difficult times. At such times, you are again reminded of how much you really value each other. For this reason, stand side by side during difficult times and remind your partner often how much value him/her. Because a happy marriage can only be possible with the coexistence of two happy people.
6. Do not complain about your partner to your friends or family
During your marriage, of course, there will be times when you feel frustrated with your partner. However, if you complain about your partner after each argument your relatives may build a negative attitude towards your partner, over time. And when you forget your anger, this situation can be a huge problem. Hence, let your private life stay private.
7. Share tasks
Marriage means sharing a common life. For this reason, you need to share household tasks equally. Instead of doing everything alone and tiring yourself out, or piling the work on your partner, share jobs and lighten each other’s burdens. Contributing to your home together will transform it from a “house” to a “nest”.
8. Accept your disagreements
You do not have to agree on every aspect of your marriage. The important thing is not to insist, but to accept. Let’s say you’ve been discussing a topic and at the end you still disagree. You do not have to impose your own ideas on each other, agree to disagree. Do not be offended, calm down and respect each other’s different ideas.
9. Do not let anything harm the respect you have for each other!
If you want to get a happy marriage; do not allow anything keeping you from respecting each other. Because aging together means accepting each other and respecting each other at all times and in all conditions. Time can change your physical appearance, but the person you love will always be in that body! Do not give up loving him/her.